Worst 31Day’er Ever.

It's time for me to face facts: I SUCK at writing every day for #31Days.  Publicly, at least.  At the bare minimum, Ive produced words, ideas, prayers, grumbles, moans & drivel into journals almost every other day.  If not there, I type into Evernote when I know my fingers can't keep up the speed to which my brain is churning out ideas. A few nights ago, I wrote and wrote until I got to the … [Read More...]


I Am Not Okay

Are you okay? They see you cry. They see you fall in a fast, steep crumble. Are you okay? There’s so much to fear, so much to worry about. They roll up their sleeves: what can be done? Is it going to be okay? Dunno, you say. //// Maybe not. Maybe it will hurt for an extraordinarily long time. Maybe always. //// What happened to you?  How did you get…this way? You know what happened … [Read More...]


I’m Getting Sober

The other day I FB'ed this: 'Any lengths to get "sober." Whatever your "sober" is, do it. Join me. Any length. Freedom is worth it. Just before I threw this onto the interwebs I'd been reading about a 4-day retreat geared towards adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse.  It's a … [Read More...]


The Realization

We put on the costumes tryin' to fit suburban hipster shit yo, look at me I can code switch! Is that well enough for you, Massa? "You don't fit here You don't fit no where but into that caricature Nigger, sit in that damn box, feels good to me     IF I think about it." Groom these … [Read More...]


What Gives Me Hope for The Church

I’m sitting on a double-decker, red-eye Megabus, Nashville bound, nonstop from Chicago. My friend bought me a ticket so I can join her at a retreat she created for Christian women ministering in various capacities. She said the Lord told her I should be there. Good enough for me. The bus departs … [Read More...]


God Knits

"And now you ask me through your tears, the age-old question through the years: Heredity or environment, which are you the product of? Neither, my darling, neither. Just two different kinds of love." //// {via} Who am I? Why I'm here? I'm here because he saw her. They said yes to adulterous … [Read More...]


Two wayward travellers stuck in a Geo with a guy named Vic.

Back in 1999, my friend Rodney made a VHS.  Yes, Chile, a V-H-S of six bootleg, ashy films on a 18 hr. videotape. (Those things that go into V-C-R's, Y'all).  I … [Read More...]


Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?

Okay. So. I saw this video titled "Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?" being discussed in the context of a safe space for black women.  There are so many … [Read More...]


Racism Distracted Me From Purity Culture

Yesterday a friend posted on Facebook from April Fiet about not praying for her children's future spouses.  After some comments back & forth on the Facebook … [Read More...]


Is it okay for me to look white?

This morning I saw my dear blogging friend, Osheta's post about writing every day in October on the same subject.  I wondered, could I do that? Mmmm... … [Read More...]


I Need To Say Something Entirely Different to White People

At the first stop, a white man produces a roll of duct tape.  Not even kidding.  A white man, mysteriously armed with duct tape.  He passes it around and helps … [Read More...]


For You, Netizen

When Whites Just Don't Get It by Nicholas Kristof Come up Higher by Lisha Epperson 7 Highly Effective Ways to Raise Lazy & Entitled Children for … [Read More...]



For awhile my boys felt like they were out of my reach.  Last Fall, when I wrote this heartbreaking post, I'd been feeling this intolerable fear that I wasn't … [Read More...]

VIDEO: Letting the Stupid Little Nigger Go

You can watch me read & sob my way through reading my piece, Letting the Stupid Little Nigger Go at Blogher '14. "For me, growing up black in America … [Read More...]


To #Succeed. Searching to #FindTheWords

In late July, I parlayed all over the San Jose Conference Center, soaking up every doggone minute of the Blogher '14 conference which was EVERYTHING. I'd been … [Read More...]

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Woncha Take A Risk?

A few days ago, I took my boys to our favorite haven on Lake Michigan.  Last summer, the three of us made the 45 minute trek to Lake Michigan just about every … [Read More...]