God am I really trusting you because ‘ish is f*cked?

About 7 months ago, shit fell apart.  All the way apart.  In every way, apart.  Complete decimation of normalcy.  It was, in part what divorce and custody battles do to folks, but there was so much more.  Nothing felt scarier than transitioning out of a 14 yr. marriage whilst facing the worst part of myself whilst taking a moral inventory of my soul.  Nothing felt scarier then scooping out 15 … [Read More...]


38 Birthday Pearls

Today, I am 38.  How woefully late thirties of me.  Last year I wrote 37 Birthday Pearls & the year before 36 Birthday Pearls each year adding one new pearl of wisdom I’ve picked up along the way. 1. People are hurting, err on the side of kindness.  If they aren’t now, they will be soon.  So many of us, so often in misery taken out by life’s brutal curve balls.  Your kindness can make all the … [Read More...]


See How They Love One Another – #BlackLivesMatterSunday

Around 260 AD the second of two great plagues killed much of the world.  It was estimated two thirds of Alexandria died as result.  Frightened people immediately began to shove diseased loved ones outside. They were dumped in roadways before they died and the dead were left unburied.  Many who fled … [Read More...]

A ranty two cents on #BlackLivesMatter

I've wanted to write more (articles, posts, novels, books, etc.) on why #BlackLivesMatter & throw in my .2 cents on #Ferguson...this movement that's global now because The Rest ALL READY hated The West & now -thankfully- they have something they can stand WITH us on, but there isn't anything … [Read More...]


The Shame Oh the Shame Oh the Shame

I hung out with some of my alumni recently.  (If you're new here...I worked in college ministry for 12 yrs.)  My guuuuurl, Tia noticed me lookin' all sad and dejected.  When we talked later, I told her it wasn't about anything she'd imagined, but just regular ole shame.  The type of shame that makes … [Read More...]


Worst 31Day’er Ever.

It's time for me to face facts: I SUCK at writing every day for #31Days.  Publicly, at least.  At the bare minimum, Ive produced words, ideas, prayers, grumbles, moans & drivel into journals almost every other day.  If not there, I type into Evernote when I know my fingers can't keep up the … [Read More...]


I Am Not Okay

Are you okay? They see you cry. They see you fall in a fast, steep crumble. Are you okay? There’s so much to fear, so much to worry about. They roll up … [Read More...]


I’m Getting Sober

The other day I FB'ed this: 'Any lengths to get "sober." Whatever your "sober" is, do it. Join me. Any length. Freedom is worth it. Just before I … [Read More...]


The Realization

We put on the costumes tryin' to fit suburban hipster shit yo, look at me I can code switch! Is that well enough for you, Massa? "You don't fit here You … [Read More...]


What Gives Me Hope for The Church

I’m sitting on a double-decker, red-eye Megabus, Nashville bound, nonstop from Chicago. My friend bought me a ticket so I can join her at a retreat she created … [Read More...]


God Knits

"And now you ask me through your tears, the age-old question through the years: Heredity or environment, which are you the product of? Neither, my darling, … [Read More...]


Two wayward travellers stuck in a Geo with a guy named Vic.

Back in 1999, my friend Rodney made a VHS.  Yes, Chile, a V-H-S of six bootleg, ashy films on a 18 hr. videotape. (Those things that go into V-C-R's, Y'all).  I … [Read More...]


Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?

Okay. So. I saw this video titled "Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?" being discussed in the context of a safe space for black women.  There are so many … [Read More...]


Racism Distracted Me From Purity Culture

Yesterday a friend posted on Facebook from April Fiet about not praying for her children's future spouses.  After some comments back & forth on the Facebook … [Read More...]


Is it okay for me to look white?

This morning I saw my dear blogging friend, Osheta's post about writing every day in October on the same subject.  I wondered, could I do that? Mmmm... … [Read More...]


I Need To Say Something Entirely Different to White People

At the first stop, a white man produces a roll of duct tape.  Not even kidding.  A white man, mysteriously armed with duct tape.  He passes it around and helps … [Read More...]